Grieving Pets: What to Expect and How to Help
Saying goodbye to a beloved pet is one of the hardest parts of having animals in our lives. But while we’re dealing with the heartbreak ourselves, it’s easy to forget that our other pets might be grieving too.
Animals form strong connections with each other. When one passes away, the others can feel confused, anxious or even heartbroken. Whether they were best mates or just shared the same space, that absence can be deeply felt.
So, how can you support your pet as they adjust to this big change?
🐾 Signs Your Pet Might Be Grieving
Grief looks a little different for every animal. Some pets show big changes, while others might just seem a bit off. Common signs include:
Loss of appetite – turning away from meals or treats
Searching behaviour – sniffing beds, pacing or looking around for their mate
Clinginess or withdrawal – sticking to your side or hiding more than usual
Changes in sleep – sleeping too much or seeming restless
Vocalising – unusual whining, meowing or howling
If you’re seeing these signs and they’re lasting more than a week or two, it’s a good idea to check in with your vet to make sure nothing medical is going on.
💭 “I Don’t Know What to Do” - You’re Not Alone
It’s incredibly common for pet parents to feel unsure or overwhelmed when their pets starts acting differently after a loss. You’re grieving too, and watching your other fur baby seem lost, withdrawn, or even distressed can leave you feeling helpless.
Here’s what we want you to know:
You’re not doing anything wrong – grief doesn’t follow a script. Sometimes just being there is enough.
You don’t have to ‘fix’ it right away – it’s okay if your pet is sad. Give them space, patience, and time to adjust.
You’re allowed to grieve together – comfort each other, talk to them, cry with them. It helps you both heal.
Ask for support if you need it – talk to your vet or a pet loss support group if things feel too much.
Remember, your pets look to you for reassurance. If you’re calm, caring, and consistent, that alone can make a big difference.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is simply sit beside them and let them know they’re not alone in missing their mate. 💛
Ways to Support Your Grieving Pet
1. Stick to a familiar routine
Keep meal times, walks and playtime as normal as possible. Routine helps pets feel safe and grounded.
2. Be present and patient
Offer extra comfort through cuddles, pats or just quiet time together. Let them choose how much affection they want.
3. Keep their mind active
New toys, puzzle feeders, or extra sniffy walks can help them stay engaged and distracted from sadness.
4. Don’t rush into bringing home another pet
Your grieving pet may need time to process the loss. Some pets do better with company eventually, but others may get stressed by a new animal too soon.
5. Let them say goodbye
If possible, let your pet see or smell their companion after they’ve passed. It can help with closure, just like it does for us.
You can also create a quiet memorial at home with a photo, candle or favourite toy to honour their friend.
💛 Healing Together
Our pets often mirror our emotions. If you’re sad, they’ll pick up on it. It’s okay to cry with them, talk to them, and share in the loss together. They’re grieving too, in their own way.
Grief isn’t something to “fix” quickly. It just needs time, love and a bit of extra care. You’re not alone in this and neither is your pet.
At Love & Toe Beans, we understand the deep love and heartbreak that comes with pet loss.
Whether you need a caring ear, a gentle goodbye, or just some support, we’re always here for you. 💛